Talking With Your Kids About Sex—If Not Now, When?

Want to talk with your kids about sexuality, but not sure when to start, what to say or how to keep the conversations ongoing? This workshop is for parents and caregivers of newborns, toddlers, young children, tweens and teens.

Led by Amy Levine, MA, CSE—a nationally recognized sex coach, certified sexuality educator and founder of www.sexedsolutions.com—you'll learn tips and tricks to raise sexually healthy kids in a world of mixed messages. So, plan a play-date for your children to spend time with friends so you can attend (or feel free to bring your infant along), and take the time to make a difference in their lives.

Sunday, October 10th
1:30-3pm
Studio Anya, NYC

Register here before tickets are sold out: http://talkingwithkidsaboutsex.eventbrite.com/

The truth about teens and sexting

According to a recent press release from The National Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy and CosmoGirl.com, one in five teen girls (22%)—and 11% of teen girls ages 13-16 years old—say they have electronically sent, or posted online, nude or semi-nude images of themselves. The survey reports that these racy images are also getting passed around: One-third (33%) of teen boys and one-quarter (25%) of teen girls say they have had nude/semi-nude images—originally meant to be private—shared with them.

The survey of 1,280 teens and young adults—conducted online by TRU, a global leader in research on teens and 20 somethings—indicates that 15% of teens who have sent sexually suggestive content such as text messages, email, photographs or video say they have done so with someone they only know online.

Teen girls are not the only ones sharing sexually explicit content. Almost one in five teen boys (18%) say they have sent or posted nude/semi nude images of themselves. One-third (33%) of young adults—36% of women and 31% of men ages 20-26—say they have sent or posted such images. What teens and young adults are doing electronically seems to have an effect on what they do in real life: Nearly one-quarter of teens (22%) admit that technology makes them personally more forward and aggressive. More than one-third of teens (38%) say exchanging sexy content makes dating or hooking up with others more likely and nearly one-third of teens (29%) believe those exchanging sexy content are “expected” to date or hook up.

“Teenagers are early adopters of technology—from the latest social networking sites to the hottest new cell phones,” says Susan Schulz, Special Projects Editor, Hearst Magazines. “While this tech savvy can be seen as a positive, our study reveals there's also a negative side. Teenagers should be aware of the real consequences to this type of behavior and we need to provide them with guidance and encourage them to make smart choices.”

“That so many young people say technology is encouraging an even more casual, hook-up culture is reason for concern, given the high rates of teen and unplanned pregnancy in the United States,” said Marisa Nightingale, Senior Advisor to the Entertainment Media Program at the National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy. “Parents should understand that their own notions of what’s public, what’s private, and what’s appropriate, may differ greatly from how
teens and young adults define these concepts.”


Other findings from the survey include:

• Sending sexually suggestive messages is even more prevalent than sending nude/semi-nude images. Nearly half of young people (49% total, 39% of teens, 59% of young adults) have sent sexually suggestive text messages or email messages to someone.

• Even more have received sexually suggestive messages: 48% of teens and 64% of young adults (56% total). Fully one-third of young teen girls (ages 13-16) have received sexually suggestive messages.

• Teen girls who have sent or posted sexually suggestive content provide a number of reasons why: Two-thirds (66%) say they did so to be “fun or flirtatious,” half (52%) did so as a “sexy present” for their boyfriend, and 40% as a “joke.”

• Even though nearly three-quarters of young people (73% total, 75% of teens, 71% of young adults) say that sending sexually suggestive content “can have serious negative consequences,” nearly one-quarter (22% total, 19% of teens and 26% of young adults) say sending sexually suggestive content is “no big deal.”

Please visit www.thenationalcampaign.org/sextech and www.cosmogirl.com/sexsurvey for more information about the survey, tips for parents and teens, and other related materials.

Dishing intimate details about your sex life with mom and dad

I have two confessions. One that I sometimes watch MTV. I can't get enough of the reality shows that sensationalize sexuality. It's part of my job as a sex expert to be able to deconstruct these shows and comment on them at times. The second...well, read on.

The other night while channel surfing, I came across the show Sex: with mom and dad. Perhaps you've seen it. It was in previews giving us all a sneak peak before the premiere on September 29th. And now for the confession...I auditioned for this show. I'm sure a lot of experts auditioned. Funny to think Dr. Drew was the chosen one. The show definitely gets families confessing and talking. It does so with Dr. Drew's intervention in a therapy type setting, assigning homework for the teen and parents to complete together. I specifically remember talking to the producer about homework assignments and how research shows this is effective. Perhaps I helped shape the segment. But, from what I've seen so far, these assignments get them talking about who they have had sex with and how many times--both the teens and the parents. This isn't my idea of success. Talking yes, focusing on the intimate details, not so much. No doubt, this shock value will cause ratings to soar.